Saturday, December 17, 2016

Apologies in true friendships go a long way

In a perfect world, we would all accept one another and get along.  The reality?  We are all different and have different ways of processing feelings, thoughts and actions.   Sometimes, people are just assholes and lack empathy.  These are the same people who take no responsibility for their actions. Especially when it is a negative move or just a plain stupid mistake.  We are all imperfect and are works in progress.  Everyone makes mistakes.  A sincere apology goes a long way.  A fake apology never fixes the problem or repair a broken bridge.  Her is an example of a fake apology.  " I'm sorry you feel that way....or I am sorry that I hurt you. "  Or any statement that shows no remorse for hurting someone.  Some people are so arrogant and stubborn, they do not see how their action could be wrong or create a conflict.  It is what they wanted and how they felt.  Don't these people realize that a decision one makes can affect others around them or others involved?  No.

Some of us do not have a filter.  That's fine.  But guess what? When you do not have a filter and you say something that may be hurtful and come off as rude, there will be consequences.  The consequences could be endless:

-  Since not everyone puts up with unnecessary snarky remarks, negs or left-handed insults, you may be dropped and/or confronted.  Especially if the person on the receiving end has any self-esteem and/or self-awareness.  Do you realize that if your friend is pissed off at you, lets you know and you still don't see it, you may not be able to move past it?  Some narcissists have a hard time seeing or understand when they hurt someone and why they make someone mad.  It's a sad thing.  Not all narcissists are evil, but they will alienate themselves from others by their selfish actions.  Friends should tell you what you need to hear and not what you want to hear.  However, there is a fine line between being insulting or just telling the truth.  If someone doesn't ask for an opinion or advice, don't offer it.  Especially if it indirectly tears someone down.

- Which brings me to this.  Feelings and opinions are not facts.   People need to stop acting like they are.  We are allowed to have feelings whether they are negative or positive.  Stick to the what and why things happen the way they do.   People have a tendency to rationalize their emotions and use them as an excuse to behave the way they do.  This can be positive and negative.  Really give some thought before you say or do anything.

-If you are scared to be honest or keep too many secrets from someone, maybe you don't value this person as a friend and you don't like them.   I don't get this because if I don't like someone there is a good reason and I don't rationalize or make excuses.   Someone has to do something really shitty.  I think that's petty and it's astounding how petty people can be with groups of friends.  It's ok not to like someone.  Not ok to be shady,  mistreat or gossip about someone.   Chances are, gossip is fueled by negative opinions and jealousy not based on facts.

When people care about their friends or relationships, they will do their best to try to make amends if they say or do anything hurtful.  They don't give an insincere apology.  It all comes back to someone making excuses for bad behavior and rationalizing.  When this doesn't happen, I often wonder, were they actually a frenemy and not a friend?  I will touch more on this later. 

Friday, November 18, 2016

A batch of earrings for the week! And a couple of cool finds!

It has been a while since I have sat down and worked with my jewelry findings.  I used sterling silver findings for this pair below and the bead on the bottom is a shell bead.   These were Betsey Johnson inspired and they match a purse I own.

For the next few pairs, my step-mom was kind enough to send me some stainless steel hoop findings and all sorts of beads. 

This pair is just white shell beads with a hematite spacer in the middle. 

Below is a pair with jet and dyed green jasper beads.

Here is an alternate shot.

And the final pair with stainless steel hoops include onyx and hematite.  (The hematite spacer is the bead in the middle.)

I went back to working with the Rose beads I had and gathered a few jet spacers (beads) and used sterling silver findings.  The next two pair also are Betsey Johnson inspired.

I used the Agate skull beads with the green roses!  I liked these the best!

I started some holiday shopping and found this Marvel shirt with Captain America, Black Panther and Falcon! (Classic Falcon).  This was a must own!

Finally, here is the latest Betsey Bag find!  Betsey Johnson makes some unique and colorful bags! This always brings a smile to my face. 

Saturday, November 12, 2016

New projects

I Finished a tunic.  Mostly wool. I wasn't sure what I was going to do with this yarn  but I figured something out. 
Next I want start a bb8 inspired Afghan!!!

Monday, October 31, 2016

LA Comic Con Day 3

Day three began early around 9:30 am and we were ready to be superheros for the day.  My friend Connie was dressed as Antgirl, Teri was steampunk Hawkgirl and I put together a steampunk wonder woman costume.  The hall was less busy this early.

Connie, as Ant-girl!

Teri's steampunk Hawkgirl was awesome!  

We walked the floor and tried to take as many pictures of the cool costumes we liked.

My costume in a work in progress, but this is what I came up with limited time and resources.

Connie ended up getting a smaller corset and it was a better fit!  She rocked it!

Some Disney highlights!

I thought this woman was stunning!  Connie and I stopped immediately and jaws were dropped!

LA Comic Con is known for it's great cosplay!  We spent most of the day showing love to others who dressed up!

Saturday, October 29, 2016

LA Comic Con Day 1 and Day 2

LA Comic Con 2016 is Halloween weekend and it's chaotic at the LA convention center.  It has grown even bigger and more and more people are in costume.  Which makes for more items to purchase and eye candy to appreciate.  I met up with a couple of friends from out of town for fun, cosplay and other festivities.  Friday was a short day and the hall was open from 5-9.  No panels, no autographs, but only vendors for shopping. 

Stripe and Gizmo! 

This was my favorite vendor!  These skirts fit from a XXS to a 6X and they transform into capes!

Here are my friends, Dewey Novak and Brak!

Lilo and Stitch! 

As you can see, I am excited to see Disney costumes!

This panel was great!  It was nice to hear about the good and bad experiences each panelist has had over the years,  


More brilliant costumes and poses from Day 2.

The star of the day, Bakunetsumaru!  I had the pleasure of spotting my friend wearing this beautiful creation as well as my friend who is cosplaying as Baymax.  Such talent from both of these amazing and fun ladies!

Our last panel of the day was the over 30 cosplay panel!